The Internet Gets Me Every Time | October 3rd Ed.


1| Now that we’re having cool fall-like weather here in New England I want to bake all the things like:
Oatmeal Cookie Baked Oatmeal
Sour Cream & Cheddar Drop Biscuits (to make into b-fast sandos)
Gluten-Free Chocolate Pound Cake and
Gluten-Free Soft Almond Cookies.

2 | Last night, I kicked off a season of baking with these flour-free almond butter brownies last night. Highly recommended and pictured above. (they’re not paleo, but they are delicious.)

3 | I love writing, but I’m not sure I love blogging. I’m looking into exploring something from this list.

4 | Speaking of writing, Nanowrimo (National Novel Writing Month) is coming up in November and although I don’t have time, I’m intrigued by the challenge of writing a novel in a month.

5 | Right now, I’m reading a book that I’m having a hard time getting into/through. But I’m determined to finish it and when I do, I want to check out some of these books.

Passion Projects Get Me Every Time




Do you have a passion project? I thought I did. And then I didn’t. And then I thought it was something else. And now, I’ve finally realized what it was more than four years after I started searching for mine. We’ll get to that, but first, you may be wondering, “what’s a passion project?” From

A Passion Project is a 30-day creative side project that’s connected with your passions, has tangible outcomes and you can complete it without quitting your job or your education. Examples include and are not limited to learning to play the violin, writing a book, creating a trailer for a documentary, prototyping a food app or even 30 days of random acts of kindness.

So, do you have a passion project? Maybe you knit blankets? Or make jewelry? Or build standing desks? Or grow tomatoes? Maybe it’s lasted longer than 30 days? While you think on it, here’s the roundabout way I figured out my passion project.

First, I started this blog. I enjoy writing and I was looking for a place to write just for me. So maybe writing was my passion project? I even joined a blogger group.* But, I’m not sure that writing is my passion project. After all, writing is my job. Not my long-term passion project.

So, I started Toyidermy. You remember. Those crazy toy-animal hacked up pieces that held business cards, pens, books, etc. Etsy shop, craft show, website. I took a huge order and almost lost my mind.**  Toyidermy is not my long-term passion project.

Then I started a dance blog. Then stopping writing the dance blog. Then returned to the dance blog only before abandoning it again. It’s on again/off again and it’s not my long-term passion project.

All of this led me to realize that my passion project was right in front of me. It has been since I was three years old. Dance is my passion project. It’s what I love to do with my free time. Take dance classes, teach dance classes, watch dance reality shows. Why am I fooling myself into thinking I needed a passion project. I’ve had one for almost my entire life. (thanks, Mom!)

OK. So, really. I want to know what your passion project is. While I’ve found mine, I’m always open to a one-off night of exploring something else. And, if you haven’t found your passion project, go and do. It’s fun, promise.

*One of the best moves ever.
**One of the worst moves ever.

Birthday Anniversaries Get Me Every Time



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I was going to let this weekend pass without saying anything on the internet about it. But I figure this was as good a chance as any that I had to make a statement about something important. Something that matters.

Right now, I should be planning a party, asking you not to buy any toys, relishing that a year has already passed. But instead, I’m planning on doing nothing and asking you not to comment on this or any other of my social media accounts.

While I know your comments come from a heartfelt place, and I’m sure you are thinking about me (us) and about how hard this time is/will be, just know that every day is difficult. And while your thoughts and prayers mean everything, they’re important all the time.

So, please, instead of commenting or writing me a note, I ask you to do one of three things, if you feel so inclined.

1. Donate blood and give another family as much of a chance as we had. Find a blood drive near you.

2. If you can’t donate blood, consider making a monetary donation to the Red Cross.

3. Consider making a donation to the Brigham-Women’s Hospital NICU building fund in memory of Bailey.

Thank you for your endless support and love.

Your Blog Gets Me Every Time



Or why I stopped reading your blog.

As a person who occasionally writes a blog, I also like to occasionally read them. But more and more, I find myself reaching for something else these days.

Don’t get me wrong, small, local blogs are still my go-to when I’m looking for a review, the latest drink place, or just beautiful photos of my beautiful city. Plus, most of those are blogs are written by some lovely people who I happen to call my friends, and I enjoy seeing what they’re up to when they’re out and about.

But lately, I’m more likely surfing to FastCo, an industry (advertising) pub or the straight up news. Also, I’m trying this old thing where you step away from all the screens and put a book in front of your face and enjoy that for a while.

However, it’s not just other outlets that are driving me away. So here it is. Why I stopped reading your blog:

  • Your blog’s sponsored posts are the same as the next blogger’s sponsored posts, are the same as the next blogger’s sponsored posts. And they can’t all be genuine, and a lot of the time, it seems like none of them really are. I get it. Certain brands reach out to certain bloggers in order to reach a certain demographic (mine, apparently.) But just because you can say yes, doesn’t mean you should.
  • Your blog feels empty. I love cute pictures of pretty drinks and outfits and decorations just as much as the next girl. Hello, I have a Pinterest account. But that’s just it. I HAVE a Pinterest account. I was reading your blog because I wanted to know about you and your thoughts and your ideas. Where did they all go? 
  • Your blog’s daily posts are just that, “everyday.” Every once and awhile there’s a gem in there somewhere. More often than not, it’s a rehash of your Instagram feed (which I’m already following, by the way), or it’s another list of links (glass houses, I know), or it’s a post about how you haven’t posted in so long* and it goes on forever and forever. (and forever.) 
  • Your blog is riddled with typos and it drives me mad. If it’s so important for you to get that post out right away, please take a few minutes to proofread it. Wait… you don’t want to take the time to read it? Then, tell me — why should I take the time to read it? Do us all a favor and type your post in Microsoft Word. Or copy and paste it into a site like Grammarly. And if you must get the post up and don’t have time to read it… hit publish, read it and if you see a typo, go ahead and fix it.

That’s really all there is to say on the subject. I just had to get it out there. It’s partially because I see how much brands are paying for your blog content and I also see how that blog content is riddled with typos. And how, too often, it’s just not interesting.

So, bloggers. Let’s step up our game. Make your blog worth reading again. If you want readers that is. Or just write for you. Just don’t be upset if I miss the big news about what book you’re reading, the tacos you ate last night or how X brand helped you make mornings better.

*As much as we all wish it were true, no one is sitting by their laptop in the morning to see if you hit publish every day. So who cares if you haven’t posted in SO LONG. Don’t even mention it. Move on. Write something today. And tomorrow. And then stop if you want. (Just please make it worth reading.)

The Internet Gets Me Every Time | July 17th Ed.


1 | That above video. Warning there are some choice lyrics so if you’re sensitive to that you might not want to watch. And if you work in a real office (read: not ad agency) you might want to grab the ol’ headphones.

2 | Speaking of being at the office… A 32-hour workweek? That sounds idyllic.

3 | I tweeted this link earlier this week, but here’s a few pointers for approaching grieving friends that’s worth mentioning again.

4 | Dear all my favorite readers (that’s you), I entered this giveaway and if I win, I’ll take 3 of you. You should enter too. (and take me, obvs.)

5 | I love Gretchin Rubin’s “Secrets of Adulthood.” This one is no exception and I plan on doing it this weekend. Are you in?

6 | “Fear can be a motivator…” and other insights on backsliding in work and life. (For entrepreneurs, but really for life.)

The Internet Gets Me Every Time | July 10th Ed.


What’s up internet. Yes. I’m back to “Blank Gets Me Every Time.” You know why? It’s easier. It makes it easier for me to write. Makes it even easier to think of post titles. It’s less pressure. It seems more frivolous to me to write with this standard approach and that I’m fine with. Lots of bloggers use their blogging because their passionate about writing and they want more of it in their lives. I’m passionate enough about writing that it’s what I do all day, so the writing here, it’s just enough to let out whatever’s bouncing around in my head without a client name attached to the end.

Today, just a quick look at some links I’m digging that I hope you’ll dig too.

• A look at why you may be aging faster than your same-aged friends. And what to do about it? Sign me up. (Yeah, yeah. It’s partially genetics, but not completely.)

• This ball pit art installation looks pretty cool. It also looks like a huge germ pit. But a really cool-looking germ pit nonetheless.

• My Kindle broke last weekend (it’s a Kindle 3 frozen on the “Recovery Mode” screen), so fingers crossed Prime Day serves up a nice Kindle deal.

• Speaking of writing (above), some people think they have “no time” to write. Here’s five ideas to help you out if you’re one of those some people.

• And one longer read for the weekend that is finally within reach. The secrets of the creative brain and how it relates to genius, high IQ and mental illness.

Heard, Read, Watched. Spring, 2015.


Serial (finally) yes. It took a few months. But I was busy in the fall, letsbehonest. And now that I’ve listened, I’m totally ready for the next story.

Currently: Nate Reuss’s Grand Romantic I’ve been in love with following Reuss since I was in college and he was front-manning The Format while smoking on stage. Last time I saw him live he’d quit the habit and, of course, sounds as great as ever on this solo album.


The $100 Start-Up I read this because I’ve seen some solid reviews of the book. It’s a quick read, has some great examples and is a nice baseline of what it might take you to be an entrepreneur. Note, I’m not quitting my day job, just reading a lot of various things.

Lean In Just like Serial, I was late to the party on this one. But I picked it up and read it — the same week Sandberg’s partner died. My heart aches for her. As for the book, I quickly devoured it. Side note, if you haven’t read this post by Sandberg on the end of sheloshim, I suggest you read it right away. So much of what she shares about approaching someone after tragedy is so true. (especially the note on asking, “How are you?”)

The Hive confession. I picked this up off the library shelf because the spine said “Hornby,” the last name of one of my faves, Nick Hornby. Well, you’re not supposed to re-shelf books, so I didn’t and I read it and it was just OK.

#GirlBoss my 22-year-old self would have benefitted from this book a lot more than I did now. There’s some interesting tidbits in there but I would recommend it to my college-aged cousin, not my working-gal-bffs.

Not That Kind of Girl so what if I totally hopped on the femme-mindset book wagon? I enjoyed this collection of stories from Lena Dunham not as much for the content as I did for the writing style.

A Room of One’s Own this is actually where my the whole female reading began this spring. Maybe closer back to where it began. Basically, Wolfe talks about how a woman needs a room of her own in which to write. In which to make. In which to think. It’s more about independence than a physical room though, so the message, while difficult to get through, is still relevant today.

Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook another confession. I didn’t make it through this. Maybe because this is the stuff I deal in on the daily? Just couldn’t get into it, so I put it down.

Currently: On Writing, A Memoir of The Craft I’m not even a quarter of the way in so I’ll report back later on this summer.


Biggest confession of the post here, people. I don’t make time for watching TV and/or movies. I’d rather spend my time with people, cooking, outside, reading, listening, dancing, etc. I do hold a few programs on my DVR. So recently, I’ve watched the season finales of Bates and Gotham. And of course, the series finale of Mad Men, single tear.

Currently: So You Think You Can Dance. My summer’s guilty pleasure.


And now, I want to know what you’re reading. Let’s connect on GoodReads. Or leave the names of what I should hear, read, or watch in the comments, yo.

When you’re unsure what’s right in front of you


JustKeepGoingI’m sitting in the family room, catching up on Dance Moms (yes, I admit it). It’s a breezy night so the sliders are open. It’s nice. It gets dark, but I didn’t turn the backyard lights on. Why should I? That’s rhetorical. But I should have.

We had a visitor. And Louise (the cat) was not too happy about it. Here’s the thing. Louise gets very protective of me. It’s to the point where she hisses and takes swipes at me. She wants me to stay away from the predator. It’s very sweet, really. Until she actually delivers on one of those swipes and then I have a bloody hand.

Like I mentioned, the lights weren’t on. I didn’t know what was out there. My guess? Another cat. So I took the cup of water I was drinking and launched it through the screen door.

I’m really lucky it wasn’t a skunk at our back door.

It’s tough. Not knowing what’s out there. What’s coming for you. Tough not being able to see something so close. Something that has such an effect on you. But that’s life, right?

The best we can do is keep going. Cautiously, yes, but keep going nonetheless.

You know what I’m talking about. For instance, a new job. You have an idea of what a new job will be like. What it entails. What’s expected of you, etc. But you can’t really be sure what will happen. You have to wait and see. You hardly know this new job.

You just keep going. Showing up every day. Finding out what’s right in front of you and what’s beyond that.

Or when life throws a crazy medical/financial/emotional curveball at you. We’ve all been affected by one of these things. Sometimes you don’t know what the next day will bring. But that doesn’t mean you will it away. You meet the rising sun and find out.

So what’s the point?

I’m not sure what the point is, but mine is this. We can’t know what’s ahead. Can we plan for what we think lies ahead? Yes. Can we make educated guesses? Sure. But in reality, you never know what will happen. Just do what you can to help you see what’s coming next.

My point is that you don’t know if something, good or bad, might happen to you today, so do everything you want today. Just in case.

And my last point is this. Always turn the lights on in your backyard. Who knows — it could have been the skunk.

10 things to do this week rather than be bored


I was never that child who was bored. It’s simply not in my DNA. It made for some hefty carry-on bags, still does, but I’m seemingly never lacking for something to do.

It seems hard to believe that with all the media, gadgets and to-dos anyone could be bored these days. And we’re probably not bored with “nothing to do.” More likely bored with what we do have to. Or what we are doing — staring at screens all the live long day.

Here’s a few thoughts on how to not be bored this week. Turn off. Unplug. Tune out. And do something different.

1| Read a book. it’s the cheapest way to be transported somewhere.
2| Go on a walk. it’s another cheap way to get somewhere.
3| Make something. anything.
4| Have a conversation. connect or reconnect with someone who you haven’t spoken to in the past month.
5| Clean out your car/your closet/your attic. and donate or sell those things you no longer need.
6| Write a letter. not an email. a letter. and send it.
7| Fix something. it’s been broken for a while, and it hasn’t fixed itself yet.
8| Rearrange. The furniture, your bookshelf, etc. Get a new perspective.
9| Do that one thing. scan the photos, shred the mail, transfer your VHS to DVD… the one thing that you keep putting off. do it.
10| Do nothing. and embrace it. 

How else can we turn off the screen — and boredom — this week?